
At Ocean Grove, near the Dunes
Restaurant (L to R: Russell, Joan, Emily, Jenny,
Valmai, Satoshi)
Around
this time, friends Elsa and John became very frail.
Although we were not aware, they were not eating
properly. After a couple of falls, John was taken to
hospital. Elsa became very confused and did not
understand where John was. She phoned Jenny and she
tracked down John via the Ambulance Service. Jenny
took Elsa to visit John, but she became even more
confused and ended up being admitted herself. Sadly,
neither of them ever returned home. For several
months, I looked after John's finances, paying bills
etc. I was reimbursed from an account that John gave
me access to. It is not easy dealing with
institutions when one is not the account holder and
there were occasions when I was thinking "Please
understand before one of us dies" while trying to
deal with their representatives on the phone! John
grew weaker and weaker until he passed away. Elsa
has dementia and is in care. Unfortunately, the
couple did not make a will so their affairs were
looked after by the State Trustees. Most of their
possessions were removed by a contractor and their
home was sold. This was a very powerful lesson about
the importance of having a will. Satoshi and I have
now had ours done through State Trustees (we even
got them on "special"!!).